Finding Your Purpose in Life


Being an intuitive involves vulnerability. Sometimes, we feel like were totally exposed personally, socially, and even financially. This, along with the fact that we’re highly sensitive, makes it difficult to lower our defenses and open up to the spiritual realm.

Though I’ve finally come to accept my purpose, I still find myself wrestling with the fact that this is really what I’m here for. But the more I work on rejecting those thoughts, the less I find myself living my true purpose in life.

How can I discern when I’m not living my purpose, the way I should be living? It’s when I procrastinate. There are lots of ways that intuitives procrastinate and put off fulfilling the purpose of their lives. Here are eight of the most common ways.

  1. Excessive caffeine or alcohol consumption.

Excessive caffeine or alcohol consumptionEveryone has their own coping mechanisms. My vices of choice are double-shot Starbucks espressos, or red wine. Interestingly, one of the most effective ways to ignore the spiritual realm is to consume too much caffeine or alcohol. Many intuitives use caffeine or alcohol because they work so well to help us procrastinate.

  1. Overspending.

This is one of my own major areas of concern. Intuitives have multiple issues going on related to this topic. Because our lives are non-traditional, we need to approach our spending habits in a non-traditional way. When I notice I’m wishing for that one more thing, whether it be a spiritual book, an e-course or whatever it may be, I know that I’m procrastinating.

  1. Minimal results despite hard work.

It’s common for intuitives to say, “If I can just keep busy enough, nobody will find out that I’m not living my purpose in life.” Lots of intuitives are Type A Personalities that are too busy and look like they’re doing so much that they don’t have time to add more. When I do this, I know that I need to slow down, take a deep breath, and do a self-check to see if my busyness is effective, or if I’m just procrastinating.

  1. Unfinished projects.

Intuitives often get branded and labeled with afflictions like nonverbal learning disorder and ADHD. When I start things but don’t finish them, I know I’m procrastinating and  just delaying the inevitable. That will not bring me nearer to living my purpose in life.

  1. Too much screen time.

How many hours a day can you spend on screens? I’m guessing about 25! It’s too easy to convince yourself that you’re really quickly just going to check that one more thing, only to find yourself lost in a “click for the next slide” loop several hours later. Then there’s games, binge-watching, plus those three more emails to send…What are intuitives to do? Put down the phone or tablet. Turn off the TV. Set a timer, or go cold-turkey. Give it a rest so you can get on with what’s really important.

  1. Not focusing on learning, and not practicing enough.

Not focusing on learningThe one time-waster that traps the most intuitives is this one. It’s kind of a catch-22. You need to educate yourself and learn more so you can better use your gifts. But you shouldn’t spend all of your time learning. You need to practice, too.

Try to look at learning as a type of remembering. You know the things that you’re teaching yourself already. You’re taking classes and reading books to recall how to apply the knowledge to your current incarnation. If you’re an intuitive now, it’s because you were an intuitive before, in past lives. Many intuitives were oracles, seers, or  mystery school students or teachers. Learning about your personal psychic giftings is  a matter of simply recalling the things you’ve previously learned in past lives.

So, what is the key? Don’t over-focus and spend excess time on education and learning. Even if you’re insecure or uncertain about where you stand regarding your gifts, it’s much more important for you to get out and to practice them. You’ll certainly learn far more practicing them than you ever could by reading a book.

  1. Too much focus on self-improvement.

Yesterday, I meant to go vegan, drink vegetable smoothies, start my weight-loss diet, track down that new recipe I read about, and spend an hour on my next online course. While they all are good things, by focus on them I didn’t focus on my purpose in life. Be honest, now–do you ever do this?

  1. Unclear about your purpose in life.

This is the grandest procrastination of all. My heart gets heavy over it, and I feel more empathy for other intuitives related to this than they’ll ever know. I’ve struggled with uncertainties myself for more than 40 years. Through it all I believe I’ve made every mistake that there is to make! My own “not knowing” did a lot of personal damage. If you relate to this, hold on. Take a deep breath. Know that all is not lost. You will be okay!

Do you do any of those things? If you do, you’re certainly not alone. Sometimes, in your own life, you can’t see the forest for the trees. This is where it’s advisable to work with other intuitives. They will be able to help you.

If you’re a life coach, a healer, a psychic, a medium, or anything like that, you have special gifts. You have healing and insight to offer people. But it can be difficult to objectively apply that insight to yourself.

It’s understandable if you feel you’re not ready to ask another intuitive for help. If you feel that way, start meditating to meet with your spiritual guides, and ask them for their help.

If you’re still not sure about your purpose in life, try answering these two questions:

  1. What is it that you think you’d be good at doing?
  2. If you had to explain your what your purpose in life is, what would it be?

All intuitives have work to do. Procrastinating and ignoring your gifts is the easiest thing to do, but it’s time. We need you. The universe needs you, your unique gifts, and the input that only you have.